Tips for finding love with online dating


NICK RABAR IS HERE SO LET'S SPREAD THE LOVE HERE ON "THE RHODE SHOW

" MICHAELA: WHETHER YOU ARE NEWLY SINGLE OR HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE FOR A WHILE, OUR FRIEND HAS SOME TIPS TO SHARE GOOD MORNING GOOD MORNING MICHAELA: VALENTINE'S DAY IS A TIME WHERE A LOT OF PEOPLE SHARE THEIR LOVE, SPREAD THE LOVE WITH OTHERS, BUT IT IS ALSO A DAY WERE PEOPLE START THINKING THAT THEY DON'T HAVE LOVE IN THEIR LIFE YOU ARE AN EXPERT ON ONLINE DATING BECAUSE YOU HAVE EXPERIENCED IT YOURSELF

PART OF MY COACHING BUSINESS, I HELP PEOPLE NAVIGATE THEIR ONLINE DATING LIFE SEVERAL YEARS AGO I MET MY OWN HUSBAND ON MATCHCOM, SO I KNOW PERSONALLY THAT IT WORKS AND I KNOW MANY FRIENDS WHO HAVE MET THEIR SIGNIFICANT OTHERS ONLINE, SO IT IS COMING I'M PASSIONATE ABOUT MICHAELA: WE WANT TO HELP THOSE OUT THERE WHO ARE STILL LOOKING THERE'S A LOT TO CONSIDER WHEN YOU ARE DEALING WITH ONLINE DATING

YOU HAVE TO HAVE THE RIGHT MINDSET GOING INTO IT FOR SPECIFIC PROFILE TIPS, SOMETHING ALIKE TO ADDRESS IS MINDSET THIS IS SOMETHING I TALK A LOT ABOUT BECAUSE IF YOU GO INTO ONLINE DATING CYNICAL AND JADED AND NEGATIVE, THAT IS THE EXPERIENCE YOU'RE GOING TO CREATE FOR YOURSELF A LOT OF PEOPLE LIKE TO COMPLAIN UNTIL THE HORROR STORIES OF THEIR FRIENDS AND FAMILY ABOUT THEIR BAD EXPERIENCES OVER THE YEARS, AND THEY ARE SEARCHING FOR ALL THIS NEGATIVE EVIDENCE I SAY LET'S FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE EVIDENCE, ALL OF THE WONDERFUL DATING AND LOVE STORIES THAT HAVE HAPPENED AS A RESULT OF PEOPLE MEETING ONLINE

THE STATISTIC IS 30 % TO 35% OF PEOPLE IN TODAY'S RELATIONSHIPS MEET ONLINE MICHAELA: YOU ARE A POSITIVE EXAMPLE OF THAT YOU MENTIONED YOU DID MATCHCOM I DID ALL OF THE SITES

MICHAELA: THERE IS SOMETHING FOR EVERYONE AND ANYONE, SO HOW YOU KNOW WHICH SIDE IS RIGHT FOR YOU? THERE'S SORT OF A BANDWIDTH AND TOLERANCE LEVEL I WOULD SAY DIVERSIFIED YOUR PORTFOLIO, MAYBE GET ON A COUPLE OF DIFFERENT SITES COMBINING TRADITIONAL PAYING SITE LIKE MATCH WITH A FREE SITE LIKE OKCUPID OR A FREE APP LIKE BUMBLE I HAVE CLIENTS THAT CAN BE ON 5, 6, 7 PLATFORMS, NETWORKS FOR THEM, BUT I HAVE OTHERS THAT CAN ONLY DO ONE BECAUSE IT BECOMES OVERWHELMING FIGURE OUT WHERE YOU ARE ON THAT SPECTRUM, AND YOUR INTERNET RESEARCH

THERE IS SO MUCH INFORMATION ON ALL THE SITES AND PLATFORMS THERE ARE SITES COMPARING MATCH TO OKCUPID AND TENDER TO BUBBLE — TINDER TO BUMBLE AT THE IT OF THE DAY, UNDERSTAND IT IS A BIT OF TRIAL AND ERROR AND EXPERIMENTATION MICHAELA: I HEAR A LOT OF FRIENDS ALL THE TIME SAYING I HAVE TO CHANGE OF MY PHOTO WHEN IT COMES TO PHOTOS, HOW MANY, HOW FEW, AND WHAT ARE THE PHOTOS OF? WHAT SHOULD WE BE POSTING AND SHARING? PHOTOS ARE SO IMPORTANT BECAUSE THEY ARE REALLY YOUR FOOT IN THE DOOR, SO TO SPEAK

I TYPICALLY RECOMMEND COMBINING PROFESSIONAL PHOTOS WITH AMATEUR SHOTS THE MEDIC MEMBER APPEARS TO BE — THE MAGIC NUMBER OF YEARS — THE MAGIC NUMBER APPEARS TO BE BETWEEN FOUR TO SEVEN AN EXTRA OF CLOSE-UPS AND FULL BODY YOU WANT TO AVOID FUZZY, UNCLEAR PHOTOS, PHOTOS OF YOU TOO FAR AWAY, GROUP SHOTS YOU WANT THE PHOTO TO BE ON YOU

NO SELFIES FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, NO BATHROOM SELFIES NONE OF YOU IN FRONT OF A PUBLIC TOILET OR YOUR OWN BATHROOM IT IS AMAZING WHEN I GO ONLINE I SEE THE PHOTOS AND THINK, DO NOT PUT ANY THOUGHT INTO THIS? GET FEEDBACK ASK FRIENDS

IF YOU ARE A THIRTYSOMETHING FEMALE, STRAIGHT, ASK YOUR MALE FRIENDS FOR HONEST FEEDBACK IF THEY SAY THESE AREN'T YOUR MOST FLATTERING, TO BE THERE ON TO SOMETHING — MAYBE THEY ARE ON TO SOMETHING MICHAELA: WHEN IT COMES TO THE WRITTEN PORTION, HOW MUCH SHOULD YOU DIE CALLED? — SHOULD YOU DIVULGE? I ASSUME IT IS ENOUGH WHERE YOU GET THEM TO BITE BUT DON'T HAVE WORD VOMIT GUEST: IT IS OBVIOUSLY A REALLY IMPORTANT PART OF YOUR PROFILE, AND I DON'T THINK PEOPLE TAKE IT AS SERIOUSLY AS THEY SHOULD OR COULD YOU WANT TO TAKE IT PLAYFULLY

YOU DON'T WANT TO BE A DEBBIE DOWNER NO ONE WAS TO HEAR THE THINGS YOU DON'T WANT IN A PARTNER OR BAD MOUTHING AXES, BUT YOU DON'T WANT TO BE GENERIC MAKE YOUR PROFILE UNMISTAKABLY YOU WHAT SETS YOU APART FROM THE MASSES? MICHAELA: I WANT TO QUICKLY GET TO THIS LAST ONE WHEN YOU ARE SENDING A MESSAGE, HOW SHOULD YOU GO ABOUT IT? GUEST: YOU ALSO WANT TO AVOID BEING GENERIC

YOU DON'T WANT HEY, I LIKE YOUR PROFILE, OR I THINK WE HAVE SOME THINGS IN COMMON IT IS A WASTE OF SPACE CLICK INTO THEIR PROFILE AND ACTUALLY READ IT, AND PICK ONE OR TWO THINGS THAT YOU CONNECT WITH AND MAKE A STATEMENT HAVE AN OPINION ABOUT THOSE THINGS IT ALWAYS HELPS TO END WITH A QUESTION BECAUSE THAT INVITES A REPLY

MICHAELA: PERFECT ALL HELPFUL TIPS